Nagging = A Boundary Without Consequences. 6 Steps to Stop the Nagging and Get More Cooperation From Your Kids.
She’d said it at least 100 times. “Put your laundry in the hamper.” And most laundry days the kids’ dirty clothes were on the floor. “Really? Again? For the 101st time, put your dirty clothes in the hamper!” This is classic nagging, and a great example of a boundary without consequences.
Why do you need a boundary? Take a look at the results you DON’T get when you don’t have one! This mom ordered, wheedled and whined to get her kids to help out with their own laundry… and still ended up doing it for them.
Think of it this way: why would your kids do something they don’t like if they don’t have to? If you give up and give in, they can sit back and watch while you do the heavy lifting. And then you nag some more.
How do you get past this cycle?
STEP #1 — Don’t demand, shame or blame.
“Just do it!” “What a mess. It’s no wonder you can’t keep track of anything.” “I do everything for everyone, and I’m just so tired.”
These words won’t get anyone, least of all your children, to be motivated and responsible for themselves. The language and attitude breed anger and resistance.
